How To Get The Hot Girl In The Gym (And ‘Guy’ Too)

November 1, 2010 by  
Filed under The Fitness Bug


I know that there are quite a few female readers here too, and hopefully everything you are about to read (If you do actually go ahead and read) will set the guys that are failing… ooohh so miserably, on the right path. And hopefully this is the advice that all of you ‘want’ to hear, to be spread across the masses to mankind everywhere. Which ever the case, ladies… air your thoughts in the comments.

Why are the guys in the gym getting the approach’ so’ wrong?

Well.. it looks like a lot of those guys are miss understanding rule #1 of ‘how-to get a date’.

Be yourself and the rest will follow…


1) That’s the foundation of what real relationships are built on (friendship or male/female relationships).

2) ‘Hot’ ladies get so much feedback and experience from guys that ‘try it’, that it’s highly likely that they’ve heard and seen every approach under the sun. So like with anything where there is hot competition… do something different and stand out from the crowd. Hence be yourself, because everyone elses approach to getting the hot girl is taken. And with time (How long depends on how good you are) she will be yours. 😀

She will obviously notice if you look good, or not. If she does like the way you look, her body language alone should tell you. However, some ladies will just let you know from the off.

In either case you would have passed test no.1

But this won’t be enough… especially for the serious women.

Test no.2

She will now see if you have any back bone to your being.

  • What do you do
  • Your interests
  • What makes you tick
  • Can you hold a conversation

All to find out if you have anything in common. This is where she begins to weed out every single aspect of all of those previous mens approach to getting her. Because if there is any suspect behavior, of you trying to get one up on her just to get her into the sack, it will be here where she finds out. So again, be yourself… because your true qualities will shine when you be yourself, and she will notice that. And before you know it, you will be winning her over and you won’t even notice it.

It is only at this point where you can strike.

However, I have always said that finding a date or even love is best found in places like a gym, rather than a night club. So at this point, you may truly find that you’ve met someone you can truly connect with. And who knows she could be the one that transforms you from a good man into a great man. Because love is blind and often strikes unexpectedly.

So don’t be a Jerk in 2010 and beyond. Because unless you do really have the skills to wrap women around your little finger, it’s highly likely that being a jerk will put you in the ‘failed to get the girl zone’, because most special ladies can smell your s**t stew of an approach a mile off.

Use AIDA – The eye catching t-shirt

If you really want to get yourself a girl at the gym without actually exchanging words, you could use the pictures speak 1000 words trick, via the clothes you wear.


The t-shirt above will be subject to ones taste, but every time I have warn this T-shirt it has gotten me eye stares and attention ‘every time’ I wear it.


  • Well, I guess it screams a part of my personality
  • It shows that I’ve got a humorous comedic side to me.
  • It shows that I have some mild interest in sexual activity (Yea, regardless of what women say, they like sex just as much as men do).
  • And it’s the right kind of fit of t-shirt for showing off muscles without being a show off.

So I guess you could use the same tactics. But again, this t-shirt is just an example from my own experience. Choose what you wear based on what suits YOUR personality.

Oh, you could probably use my bonus trick too…

The scent

Tom Ford Black Orchid Hydrating Emulsion – 150ml/5oz

To be specific… THIS SCENT (Above) From Tom Ford.

Seriously, every where I go, this scent attracts ladies of all ages. It’s seriously nuts. I swear, you could be the ugliest dude in the world and this scent will make the hottest ladies go gaga over you.

I digress….

The fact is, most girls don’t want to be approached in the gym during their workouts. Yea, they might be secretly eyeing you up with the corner of their eye, and doing it without you noticing (They just happen to be good at that I’m afraid). But they still probably don’t want to be bothered. Which is a bummer, seeing as ladies you meet in the gym will probably make for much more ‘sound’ partners, compared to meeting someone in a club.

So the key is to get them to come up to you. If this was in a night club, I’d say hit the dance floor and master some dance moves. Ladies love a man that can dance. Trust me… I’ve been partying for years and it works every time. Almost effortlessly (Not to brag or anything, as I’m sure it works for many other dudes too.)

However, this is the gym and not a night club. So you need to use a different approach. So do things with your physical actions other than words, because they will do the speaking for you.

1) The T-shirt with a message (Could be gym mantras like ‘train insane‘ or ‘Go hard or go home’)
2) A good scent
3) The way you train

That last point can be the real ice breaker. Because she will learn so much about you here.

  1. Dedicated
  2. Confident
  3. Dynamic
  4. Courageous
  5. Passionate

All traits that women go nuts for in a man. Which I spoke of in point #4 in this post…

15 Things Successful Bodybuilders And Successful Entrepreneurs Have In Common

And this will inevitably lead to some conversation after sharing a gym room a few times.

8 more tips to help you get the girl


• Be funny, relaxed, and playful.

• The biggest obstacle to socializing would have to be the iPod. If your person of interest is stuck in their iPod universe you’ll need to be clever and use non-intrusive solid eye contact. Be friendly, smile and look for a positive response. Be patient and work it sloooow (if you’re after one thing, she’ll sense it in a flash) and wear down the barriers. If you are receiving negative feedback it is time to move on and respect their space.

• Be prepared, pay attention to their workout regime (without becoming creepy about it!) otherwise your person of interest may appear out of the blue, which could leave you in a stuttering mess, causing you to lose that opportunity to interact. Have an ice-breaker prepared in advance, compliment her (again without seeming creepy) and once you know her name, use it! (I’m serious, do not forget her name!!!)

• Spin class is an excellent way to break the ice, the lights are down, music is high everyone is relaxed and playful. A great time to talk is either before or after the class. Just remember keep it relaxed, light and smile!

• Be friendly and fun! As i mentioned previously, great relationships often begin with friendships. Challenge them to a race on the treadmill, see who can crunch the most curls or hold the longest plank! It could leave you both in stitches (in a good way, not the medical way).


• Flex in the mirror, grunt or act like Mr I’m-too-sexy for my….(you know the song)

• Over spray your cologne, heavy breathing requires fresh air, a nice light deodorant and fragrance is sufficient. (consider a nice smelling cream – it has worked for me. She’ll easily remember you this way too)

• Stare continuously like a stalker or disrespect personal space.

Guys, if you follow the information above, you cannot fail in getting that special lady in the gym that you’ve been eyeing up, yet too afraid to ‘go for’. Stay-Fit Bug is all about building a better body, and confidence is something you gain throughout that process. At this point, you might not even need help getting ladies. However, if you are after that special lady that guys just seem to be failing to attract, then the above tips should help you. In fact I know they will. Years of practice, years of practice (Again… not to brag or anything).

Something for the ladies

(See, I do think for all sexes :))

Tips for women
The gym a great place to find a partner who cares about their body and health. But how do you approach the guy you’re interested in, as he is there to exercise, not socialize? (I am your prime example)

The last thing you want is a public rejection and have to return to the same gym day in day out. There is a way to make this a win-win situation though, read on!


• Be warm, open and smile, you will ooze mystery and charisma. Men (and women!) love a lady who is light-hearted and fun. You will appear fresh and easy going, ensuring you will have them coming back for more.

• Make friends with the staff and other members; the more networks you are a part of the closer you will get to them.
 Ask around and see who might already know them. Find out if they are single for a start. Keep it casual and it will probably get back to them that you were showing an interest, which may motivate them to break the ice first!

• Ask them for help.

For example…

Lifting a heavy weight on or off a machine (this is an acceptable reason). Then observe if they are happy to oblige and if so, try starting up a conversation. Of course if it feels/looks like you’re taking up their valuable time and that the task is more of a bother than a privilege, then you’ll know that making a move is probably not going to be well received. (this is the mans goal driven time time ladies)

• Of course, if they are beginning to pay more attention to you and their gaze is getting more intense, ask them out! Seriously, girls… you are allowed to do it! Just keep it casual and light-hearted. If you have all the signs, casually ask them if they would like to join you for a drink. Short and relaxed is the key.


• Avoid wearing overwhelming perfumes. (I don’t want to faint!)

• Don’t dress up as you were in a bar. Avoid the heavy makeup and, instead, opt for a new gym outfit, smell fresh and keep your look natural. (If you look great natural, I can’t wait to see you at your best!)

• Don’t wear headphones as this can make you appear unapproachable (take the white buds off). To make it easy for him, invite him in with your smile, eye contact and a compliment to break the ice.

To conclude

Meeting that special someone at the gym can be fun, so take a deep breath, be brave and say ‘hi’. After all, what’s the worst thing that can happen?….. I just had a funny thought, but i’ll leave those thoughts in the comments. Now go get your girl (or guy)!

Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.

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